Why Losing Doesn’t Make You a Loser—Part 2

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Why Losing Doesn’t Make You a Loser—Part 2

Last week we discussed how sometimes we learn more in losing and how sometimes a win is disguised as a loss.  I shared some personal examples of situations where it seemed like I was losing, but it ended up being a “win” in the end.  There were so many times in my life where I actually won from losing.  Thankfully, I’ve been able to recognize those wins by taking some of the practical steps that I shared last week.  This week I’d like to share some examples from the bible of winning from losing, and I will share some more practical steps that have helped me to realize that losing doesn’t make you a loser and how not to lose hope.

There are examples throughout the bible where God turned losing into a win.  My pastor calls it “turning the tables on the devil”.  There are stories in scripture where it looked like they lost but they really won—a bigger “win” than if they never “lost”. 

Starting in Genesis 37, you can read the story of Joseph (this is one of my favorite bible stories!) and his circumstances of seemingly losing over and over.  First his brothers were jealous of him and hated him.  They originally made plans to kill him but ended up selling him into slavery instead (telling their father that he had been killed by wild animals).  He then worked as a slave in Egypt (Genesis 39) and was eventually put in charge of the entire household, but he was later falsely accused of rape and sent to prison.  There he was favored and put in charge of all the other prisoners.  Ultimately he ended up interpreting some dreams for Pharaoh and ended up being made ruler of Egypt only being outranked by the Pharaoh (Genesis 41).  His brothers who had first meant him harm wound up humbling themselves and bowing before him.  In the end, Joseph was in a higher position than he could have ever achieved without “losing”, and he was able to save his family and the lives of many others through the process.

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Genesis 50:20 (NIV)

Have you had someone hate you, betray you, falsely accuse you or forget you?  Remember Joseph.

In Daniel 3 you can read the story of Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego and what appeared to be “losing” for them.  Continue reading

Funny Friday: Mother vs Father

Mother vs Father

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Why Losing Doesn’t Make You a Loser—Part 1

Learn why losing doesn't make you a loser...

Why Losing Doesn’t Make You a Loser—Part 1

This past weekend my son’s baseball team played in the end-of-season championship tournament.  They made it to the final championship game.  Those little guys played one of the best games they’ve ever played, and their competition was tough.  Boy, was it a nail-biter!  It was actually a bit stressful to watch.  Anytime a mistake was made, there were gasps because we knew every move mattered, and every play counted.  It was a very tight, close game.  My husband, Eric, is one of the assistant coaches.  At one point nearing the end of the game I asked Eric, “Are you nervous?”  His reply kind of surprised me (especially since he’s such a competitive spirit!).  He said, “No.  It really doesn’t matter if they win or lose.  Either way, I’m already really proud of them.  They’ve played a great game.  I couldn’t ask for more.”  My friend sitting next to me leaned over and said “Good answer!”  Eric knew that losing wouldn’t make them losers.

In the end, our boys did end up winning. 🙂 The final score was 5-4.  Ball caps were flying in the air.  Parents were jumping out of the stands.  It was very exciting.  However, I remembered my husband saying “it really doesn’t matter if they win or lose”, and even though they won, I completely agreed.  We were all so proud of how they played the game.  Even if they lost, I think it still would have been a win in a way.  Winning is good but maybe losing is sometimes okay too.  You see, not everybody who loses is a loser.  Sometimes it’s the game or the process, not the outcome, that matters.  Sometimes we learn more in losing.  Sometimes a win is disguised as a loss. 

Senior Cheer-Tracy

Tracy-HS Junior/Senior Cheer

It reminds me of times in my life where I experienced losing, but in the end it was really a win.  I can think of examples throughout my life where this has proven to be true.  I remember trying out for the cheerleading squad when I was in junior high.  I didn’t make the cut.  I was devastated about losing, and I felt like a loser.  I will never forget something that happened that day though.  Continue reading

Funny Friday: Cracka-Lackin

I had cheese but no crackers...I was cracka-lackin!

Funny Friday: Cracka-Lackin

This little guy had cheese but no crackers…He was cracka-lackin! 🙂 What can I say.  I’m easily entertained.  Have a great Friday!

“When Jesus heard this, he said to him, “You still lack one thing…” Luke 18:22 (NIV)

 

What’s the Meaning Behind the Wings?

What’s the Meaning Behind the Wings?

What’s the Meaning Behind the Wings?

This past weekend we celebrated my sister Shawna’s birthday.  I absolutely loved her theme and decorations centered somewhat around wings (she had a movie-on-the-lawn watching Maleficent).  She’s so talented and gifted at that (as I’ve written about before).  However, my favorite part of her birthday was that in lieu of gifts this year, she hosted a fundraiser instead.  She joined A21 in the fight against human trafficking.  A21 informs that “Human trafficking is modern day slavery that fuels the growth of organized crime, undermining health, safety, security, and the basic needs of humanity. It is the fastest growing crime in the world.”  Shawna used a wonderful and brilliant analogy about wings that fit right in with her Maleficent theme.  Here was her message:

Hi friends,
I have decided to join A21 in the fight against human trafficking by hosting a small fundraiser for my birthday (in lieu of birthday gifts).
Please note that your gift may have just been a card or kind word (which I love!). And you can still donate that as well! A21 has a “how you can give” page and one of the ways to give is to write letters, make a card, or just send a small craft or something to brighten up the day of those who were rescued! Please check out A21’s page for all the ways you can donate!!
A21 aims to rescue and rebuild lives that have been affected by human trafficking and actively operate with ten offices in nine countries.
THANK YOU for choosing to support me as I work to raise funds that will free victims and restore lives.  If you would like to learn more about the issue of human trafficking globally, please check out the Human Trafficking page on the A21 website.
My theme for my birthday is Maleficent. In that movie her wings were stolen and she could no longer fly and she lost hope. She regained her hope (and her wings) through seeing the kindness, grace, and love in another.
Those who have been trafficked have also had their wings stolen. I ask that you partner with me in showing those in need kindness, grace, and love. Help me give them back their wings!!
~ Shawna

I absolutely loved her wings analogy!  Wings hold special meaning for me too because Continue reading

Funny Friday: Town of Salamis

Town of Salamis--yum

Funny Friday: Town of Salamis

I ran across this scripture about the town of Salamis in one of my quiet times.  This is yet another peek into my very imaginative and quirky mind (I shared a peek here when I pictured Jesus singing Jay-Z and Taylor Swift).  I really would love a town of salamis…and cheeses…and chocolates…

“There, in the town of Salamis, they went to the Jewish synagogues and preached the word of God. John Mark went with them as their assistant.” Acts 13:5 (NLT)

Funny Friday: Trust Fall

Funny Friday: Trust Fall

Since we’ve been talking about fear lately and overcoming that by trusting God–like a trust fall–I thought this video would be a fitting Funny Friday (click here to go to watch the video link).  It’s actually a trust fall FAIL!

It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.” Psalm 118:8 (KJV)

How to Overcome Insecurity Caused by Fear Part 2

How to Overcome Insecurity Caused by Fear Part 2

How to Overcome Insecurity Caused by Fear Part 2

**Please read Part 1 here if you have done so already.

Last week we talked about how fear can be a major factor in insecurity and how sometimes our fears can cause us to see ourselves differently than we really are (click on the post link above to get caught up).  I, myself, have dealt with a number of fears that have caused me to feel insecure.  Growing up I said I would never have kids, but I honestly think that stemmed from some fear.  I feared that I didn’t have what it took to be a good mom.  I feared what it would do to my body.  I also feared the pain of childbirth.  After having 2 kiddos, I now know that those fears were unfounded—although somewhat true, they were nothing to truly fear.  I was able to fight through and overcome each of them.  I also used to have a fear of teaching (again…I always said I would NEVER be a teacher).  I had so much self-doubt in that area that I made excuses about why I shouldn’t teach others (read more about it in this post here).  It’s kind of funny about how the devil often plants fears right smack in the middle of God’s plan and calling on our life.

Previously, we discussed a couple of practical steps to fight fear in order to overcome insecurities in these areas.  A couple of the steps included just facing the fear head-on and going ahead and doing whatever it is that is causing us fear.  This in turn builds our confidence and those insecurities will start to slowly fade in that area.  We also discussed the step of trusting in God and in His abilities more than our own.  We are not alone, and we don’t have to face the fears of life as if we are.  We have so much strength available to us if we will just lean on it.

Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real

A long time ago I heard an acronym for “fear” that I really liked.  You may have heard it as well.  It is that fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.  The idea is that a lot of times (not always), those things that we fear don’t even exist.  It makes me think of those times when I’ve been afraid of Continue reading