Hey Mom, Are You and Dad Santa?
Well, I had the Santa conversation this past weekend. Honestly I expected it some time ago, but somehow we’ve been able to avert it. This past week I’ve been recovering from a bout of vertigo. I decided to take the weekend to just completely rest and veg out because lying down seems to help significantly. Thankfully Hallmark has already started their Christmas movie bonanza so I had that to help with the boredom. You know how I’m a sucker for Hallmark Christmas movies! 🙂
So there I was just lying there in and out of sleep, relishing my Christmas movies, when my son comes in and lays across my bed. Then the question came…
Hey Mom, are you and dad Santa?
I knew this question would come.
Funny Friday: Moms texting each other
My sister sent this to me and said it sounds like us! It really does–I can totally see us saying this to each other! Well, eBay or Etsy sound better than this Old Testament option…
“Suppose a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey his father or mother, even though they discipline him. In such a case, the father and mother must take the son to the elders as they hold court at the town gate. The parents must say to the elders, ‘This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious and refuses to obey. He is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of his town must stone him to death. In this way, you will purge this evil from among you, and all Israel will hear about it and be afraid.” Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (NLT)
How to Teach Your Kids (or others) to Have Relationship With God
It’s so important to me to teach my kids to have a real relationship with God, beyond salvation. In fact, I’d say that’s part of my life’s mission and calling. I want not only to help my kids learn how to have relationship with God but to teach others this as well. It’s a part of why I started this blog. Today I was reading through the Jen Hatmaker Bible plan “For the Love“. She was discussing how kids are ultimately going to make their own decisions especially spiritually. We can’t control or guarantee the outcome as parents. She said “the best we can do is give them Jesus”. He is unchanging (Hebrews 13:8).
Jen shared how when we don’t know what to do, when we are grasping as a spiritual mentor, or when right words and answers fail us, Jesus can deliver. Kids may doubt us, but they can’t doubt Jesus because he is unfailing and dependable. He always endures. Jesus can lead and guide our kids during those times when we can’t and even after our job of raising them is done. We need to remember that our children belong to God.
Raising good, godly, world-altering kids who have a relationship with God
I kind of had a vulnerable moment with God during reading this because one of my heart’s greatest desires is to raise good, godly, world-altering kids who love God faithfully with their whole heart and have a genuine relationship with God. My kids are still young, but sometimes I worry about their relationship with God (not their salvation because I personally prayed the believer’s prayer with both of them). I especially worry about my 12-year-old son at times. He doesn’t seem too terribly interested in spiritual things or in true relationship with God. That hurts my heart because I don’t know how to fix that. You hear stories of kids being raised in good Christian homes and then turning away from God. I don’t want that. So reading this devotional helped a little…I just need to give them Jesus.
I stopped my reading and prayed an earnest and heartfelt prayer (James 5:16) telling Jesus my concerns and desires for my kids. I told him that right answers have failed me. I told him that I’m concerned that I can’t guarantee their “spiritual success”. I asked him for help. I asked him to show me what I could do (what steps I could take) to do my part in “giving them Jesus”. After pouring my heart out for a minute or two, I continued reading my Bible. This verse was part of the plan and the last phrase comforted me…
“For the Lord is good, His unfailing love continues forever, and His faithfulness continues to each generation.” Psalm 100:5 (NLT)
Each generation… That means He will be just as faithful to my kids as He’s been to me. 😀
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Funny Friday: They will find you
Oh so true. Not even in the privacy of your bathroom can you escape from your kids. They WILL find you. My sister found and sent this to me the other day because we were just talking about this very subject around Mother’s Day when we were reminiscing about never giving our poor mother privacy…even when she went to the bathroom. Sorry mom!
“You will find no place to hide; there will be no way to escape.” Jeremiah 25:35 (NLT)
Prayer For Those Who Make Bad Choices
I was recently talking with a friend about the bad choices our kids make sometimes. We talked about how it breaks our hearts as parents to have to not only see them make bad choices but then to have to watch them experience the consequences. Then we discussed how similar God must feel when He has to do this with us when we make bad choices. I remembered journaling about this very thing a few years back. I went back through my journals, and here is what I had written:
August 3, 2010
A Good But Just Parent…
My sister and I were just talking tonight about how I was frustrated with my kids lately. They seem to be misbehaving a little more than usual. I think they may be having a bit of cabin fever. Summer is nearly over and school is going to start soon. We haven’t been able to do as many of our usual activities as I would like due to the extreme heat we’ve been experiencing. It’s been miserable to do outside activities like the zoo, Big Splash, the pool, the park, golf, etc. Anyhow, I’ve been planning and wanting to do some fun stuff with them before the summer gets out, but it never fails that when I have a fun activity planned, they misbehave. I end up canceling and postponing our fun. I don’t really want to reward them when they’re behavior is bad, but at the same time it makes me so sad because I really want to do nice things for them and fun things with them. All of a sudden I had the thought, “I bet God feels like this sometimes.” It made me laugh because of how true it was. How many times has God wanted to bless us or do nice things for us, and we’ve just tied his hands? As much as we love and want to bless our children, our heavenly Father wants to do even more for us.
“So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.” Matthew 7:11 (NLT)
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
He’s a better parent than we are, yet still very just. Our sin separates us from God. His hands are tied by OUR wrongdoing.
“But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.” Isaiah 59:2 (NIV)
“Your eyes are too pure to look on evil; you cannot tolerate wrongdoing…” Habakkuk 1:13a (NIV)
We need to rid our lives of sin and be obedient to God’s word. In return, God can shower us with blessings. God’s will is to bless those who do right. God wants more for us than we can ask or even imagine for ourselves. Our job is to obey and follow his guidance and directions and to make good choices, not bad choices.
“You bless all those who follow your commands from deep in their hearts.” Psalm 119:2 (CEV)
“Blessed are those who act justly, who always do what is right.” Psalm 106:3 (NIV)
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33 (NIV)
“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us” Ephesians 3:20 (NIV)
We have to make choices, between good and bad/life and death, every day. Who we are depends on the choices we make. We are also where we are now because of the choices we have made in the past. The choices we make will determine the circumstances we end up with in our future. Our choices will hold responsibility and consequences. We will be held accountable for the choices we make. We are not victims. We are not a product of our environment–We are a product of our choices. So how can we help people we care about that are making bad choices?